So... tonight I actually said what I was thinking, out loud. I know to most of you this comes as a shock since I seem like I say whatever pops into my head immediately. While that's true about my attempts at humor and encouraging things, I usually don't give unsolicited advice to complete strangers.
Here's how it went down. I was at a restaurant with my BFF and her beautiful almost four month old daughter. Our waiter commented on how cute the baby was and as he was walking away he said, "I can't wait to have kids. I want five." I was so surprised that when he came back around I asked if I had heard right. He launched into this five minute explanation of how he's ready to settle down and have kids and he just has to find the right girl and all the girls he's met just want to play games.
Now, normally this is the part where I smile and nod and maybe say something about how I hope he finds his soul mate. Tonight I took a leap and told him, "If you want to find the right kind of girl you need to go to church. That's where the girls are who are ready to settle down and have kids." I was expecting him to blow off my comment, but instead he agreed with me. My BFF recognized his upstate NY accent and commented on it.
After he checked on his other tables he came back and pulled up a chair and told us all about how he had moved here on his own and was looking for a new life and all that. I asked him where he lived in the area and recommended a good church near him (he said he didn't have a car). Before we left the restaurant he told us that God must be really trying to get a hold of him, because there have been a bunch of times in the five months he's lived in the area where random people have told him to go to church.
Tonight I'm praying that Patrick will find God, and if he's already found him once, that he'll be re-infused with passion. I pray that he does find the girl who's willing to get married and have five kids with him, but not until he's ready to support her spiritually, as well as financially. I'm praying that tomorrow morning he'll wake up earlier than he thought he would, with more energy than he expects (he's working until 1:00 am) and that he'll remember the recommendations he received and try out the churches I mentioned.
One more thing... Any of my friends at the Harbor... let me know if Patrick shows up tomorrow.