In order to do that I'm going to need to first set the stage with my observations about the concept of someone identifying as transgender.
I'm a Christian: not in the raze-the-holy-land-take-all-the-loot sense; not in the our-church-has-the-right-to-tell-the-government-what-to-do sense, and not in the obnoxiously-protesting-tragedies-with-unparalleled-insensitivity sense. I'm a Christian, in that I believe the Bible is true, Jesus died on the cross for everyone's sin, God is love, and Christians are supposed to be the shining example of that love.
That being said, whenever I see or read or hear about transgenders I get sad. I get sad because I honestly believe that someone who is actively turning away from their natural born gender has either been the victim of extreme psychological abuse, or is suffering with a downright harmful hormonal imbalance. Unfortunately looking into the majority of cases, the first is more often the cause than the latter. Here are few examples:
Let's start with the glaringly obvious Kaitlin Jenner:
Keeping up with the Kardashians is probably one of the most blatant displays of Bruce's psychological abuse. As the man of the house, he was ignored, walked over, downplayed, and in every way disrespected, and all on national TV. I don't know how any man would be able to stand up to the kind of rejection he dealt with day in and day out as his wife and daughters made millions out of his mockery. It's only natural that a smart man like Bruce would eventually come to the conclusion that he only way to redeem himself in the eyes of the world would be to become more respected revered and honored by becoming an empowered woman.
Another recent tragedy is the suicide of Leelah Alcorn.
Here are a few, less direct, examples:
Some are the casualties of physically abusive parents. A little boy rejects his masculinity because the only example he has is a father who can't control his temper and a mother who is angry at him but unwilling to leave. These scars during his developmental years will encourage him to hate his masculinity. A little girl sees her mother being sexually and mentally abused by multiple partners, and can't understand why she has to continually be under attack. Her developing mind sees that men are more powerful and, to put it bluntly, if you can't beat them, join them.
Some instances of abuse aren't as obvious. Take for instance a little girl who grows up in a patriarchal church and is only ever taught that the path to fulfillment is to become an obedient wife and baby maker. A little boy hears his mother complain about the stupidity of his father. Day after day he hears female peers and other women talk about the overall incoherence of the male sex. What desire would these people have to grow up to become what they are taught to despise?
Then there are the children of parents who are outwardly supportive of their children's desires to embrace the intrigue of the opposite sex, but unwilling to validate their natural born state. These parents sound socially savvy. They make statements about not labeling their children's sexuality or talk about the difference between their natural gender verses their chosen one. Sure it sounds nice and accepting, but what if they are really pushing their children's developing psyche into transgender roles. What if these parents are quietly encouraging their children to reject their physical gender and hurting their child's ability to embrace their physical gender.
I would like to just give one more example from the TV show Sense8. While I recognize that the story of Nomi Marks is fictional I think her back story in Season 1 Episode 9 is a prime example of the painful past many transgenders suffer with (Warning: this clip shows overt bullying and is a bit intense)
I hope I've explained sufficiently why transgender stories sadden me. I wish I could heal the hurt in every one of these people. I wish that I could go back in time and stop the abuse. I cannot do that, however, so I am burdened with the task of being the change I wish to see in the world. I must begin the process of re-educating those who will listen.
To those men who would give anything not to be male anymore: please don't give up. Being a woman isn't going to get rid of the frustrations you feel. It's only going to change how you look on the outside. You will still be you, and I have the utmost respect for you. Know that there is at least one person in this world who loves you, the REAL you. The world needs people like you to show what being a true man is, and that is embracing the diversity that is masculinity.
To those women who would give anything to be male: I get it. No really, I do. I was raised the only girl with a bunch of boys and there were so many times when I thought my life would be easier if I was one of them. I understand the crap that comes with birth control and periods, and hormone swings. It's not fun. But there are so many benefits to being a woman, especially in this day and age. We have never been more powerful, and have worked so hard to achieve this level of equality. You have so much to offer the world, be empowered and be the woman that you are.
To those religious folks who think the way to deal with the GLBT "threat" is through more Bible thumping and hatred: go back and re-read that book you claim to follow. Read all of it, not just Leviticus and Romans, and realize that you are still a son or daughter of Adam. You are nothing without the God of Love who rescued your sorry butt. Then, realize that these folks are your mission in life. They need love and healing, just like you did. Become the shining example of love and forgiveness that Jesus was. He ministered to tax collectors and sinners, and told the pharisees that only the truly sinless could stone the adulterer. Be like the Jesus who showed love and compassion to the woman at the well who had several ex husbands and was living with her boyfriend.
If you're not completely offended by now, please continue to Part Two, here.